Inspire to smile

Happiness is something we often seek out of life and why not God has created us with such affection & perfection. Whenever I start thinking of evolution of life, as I have done graduation in Biology (Study of life), I just can’t stop praising God.

Human beings are at the top of animal kingdom; we can communicate, exchange thoughts, imagine & dream. It is said that everything gets created first in dreams & then gets converted into reality. Science has given us so many inventions to support our life. Today so many machines are there in our daily usage that we can’t imagine to live without some of them.

Recently I read a new term “NOMOPHOBIA” it’s a mental sickness in which one fears to how to live without his/ her mobile phone.

Are we not heading towards the addiction of digital chatting & getting away from real world that exist around us. Just look around in any restaurant people will use mobile phones for chatting/ texting/ viewing new pictures sent by a remote friend. Distance relationships are becoming more enjoyable than the ones we live with.

It’s easy to blame each other for such sorry state of relationships, but the irony remains the same.

Let’s understand that why the sorry state is there in the relationships & what can help us???

‘The Over Ambitious’ people keep their jobs or business 24x7 with them; they even don’t know that they are ignoring the people around them.

‘The Perfectionists’ (who seek perfection in everything) remain in their imaginary world & keep waiting for ideal situations to cheer up. The island “Perfect” is not there in the world’s map. Still they remain full of hopes.

‘Irked Relatives’ are always there in everyone’s life, as relatives are a matter of destiny (except the spouse)

‘Open Marriage Singles’ they are the ones who are living with their spouses in the same house but they are least bothered for each other. This is a very common side effect of our modern day life, which is “WANT DRIVEN”. (Immediate Gratification)\

‘ATM Cum Husbands’ these poor fellows are the living ATM machines as their family (wife & so called 21^st century teens) use them as ATM machines only. The first thing they get at home is the bill for the daily expenses when they reach home after office or business set ups.

‘Intellectual differences’ by the time marriages reaches a double digit vintage (10+years), the difference between life partners start increasing as they are exposed to two different worlds. Their definition for every world is different, like finances, materialistic possessions & show off, responsibilities towards old parents, children and love life.

Our generation is living in an era of fake identities. Many of us are living with dual faces. One side we love ourselves & want to live with peace, at the same time we are becoming “ZERO TOLERANCE ROBOTS”.

Everyone is searching for peace & love. The change has to start from “YOU”. (In my case it’s ME)

Only one person who can help you is “YOU”. The only person who can take you through is YOU. The focus has to be on Your Own development. It sounds too repetitive. But this is the only way out, I realized it in my life, you will realize if not now, then later, but truth will remain the same.

Start using a mantra to “FORGIVE & FORGET”; the more you forgive; the more you set free your soul. The more you forget the uncontrollable things in your life the more you enjoy the life as it comes.

Ensure you take care of your health unconditionally. The word “Unconditionally” is the key here, join gym, if not join neighborhood yoga class if not, join any dance class if not, go for a brisk walk daily in the morning & even if nothing seems possible then plug in music at home, close your room dance or do whatever physical activity you remember, point is do it daily, don’t miss the bliss of being fit & in great shape.

Ensure your mental balance (Emotional Quotient), don’t depend on anyone to keep you happy, it’s a human made society, God has created us as individuals, & that’s why God gave us the power of self talk, even if you listen to your heart & follow, you will ensure the happiness in your life. Don’t ignore the voice of your Divine Soul (In my previous blog read about ‘Divine Soul’).

Once your health is good & your emotions are well under control, you can feel free & a free soul smile like an innocent child. This innocent smile will bring a positive aura around you. No matter who lives around you will get a new positiveness in you, trust me people will turn towards you with a new perspective. Though positiveness travels with much lesser speed, but it’s not stand still also.

Few suggestions for making life simple & happy:

Ambitions are good; in fact important to grow, but not at the cost of family time, balanced approach will bring harmony in life.

Search for perfection in relationships or human being is total waste of time, thinking of perfection in other is itself not perfect. Respect everyone’s individuality. Life is simple if we don’t treat it as a puzzle.

Because of other relationships don’t spoil your core relationships; don’t try to win someone at the cost of losing someone you love. It is said that you can’t satisfy everyone at the same time. So even if some people are not happy with you don’t be guilty. It’s normal.

Even if love has disappeared from your marriage but you are not planning a divorce, it shows that something is still there on which the relationship is floating. Try to rediscover the love in your married life. Forgive & Forget can work magic. You can make certain rules like; prohibit the mobile phones in the bedroom, replace your TV with a music system from the bedroom, as watching TV spoils the opportunity for the light chat between the life partners. Lack of communication is the biggest reason for detachment. Talk, it will helps to restore the love.

It’s my humble suggestion to all house wives; that stop treating your husband’s as ATM machines, as in some cases the wife remain immune to financial recession while the husband has to bear the burn. The way inflation is hitting the finances of every household, the lady at home has to respect more for the sole earning male. Understanding the finances for the lady is equally important. In the urban families where only male is earning, usually finance is the biggest reason for marital discord. If a lady can’t work she need to understand the NEED based life rather than WANT based life.

If one grows in life or in profession, start reading some good literature or the market teaches him/her the values of life; while if the other partner is into lazy life style or only into fashion clothing there is possibility that the intellectual differences start building. These differences start creating communication gap which leads to lack of interest in each other. Relationship without love is merely a liability. The remedy is self improvement. Read books, blogs or watch knowledge based TV programs. In nut shell awareness is the key. A well aware person is confident & confidence is the key to get respect.

You smile & can see the people around you will smile back to you, if it can’t be felt in a day, but rest assured it will happen for sure.

The biggest guarantee you can take from your own analysis. If someone forgive you for your faults & forget the bitterness from the past; Will you welcome him/ her back in your life or not? If your answer is yes, my purpose of writing this blog is achieved.

Smile is contagious. Let’s spread this beautiful instant natural makeup to bring joy in our life.

Smile & inspire to smile.