Happiness is something we often seek out of life and why not
God has created us with such affection & perfection. Whenever I start
thinking of evolution of life, as I have done graduation in Biology (Study of
life), I just can’t stop praising God.
Human beings are at the top of animal kingdom; we can
communicate, exchange thoughts, imagine & dream. It is said that everything
gets created first in dreams & then gets converted into reality. Science
has given us so many inventions to support our life. Today so many machines are
there in our daily usage that we can’t imagine to live without some of them.
Recently I read a new term “NOMOPHOBIA” it’s a mental
sickness in which one fears to how to live without his/ her mobile phone.
Are we not heading towards the addiction of digital chatting
& getting away from real world that exist around us. Just look around in any
restaurant people will use mobile phones for chatting/ texting/ viewing new pictures
sent by a remote friend. Distance relationships are becoming more enjoyable
than the ones we live with.
It’s easy to blame each other for such sorry state of relationships,
but the irony remains the same.
Let’s understand that why the sorry state is there in the relationships
& what can help us???
‘The Over Ambitious’ people keep their jobs or business 24x7
with them; they even don’t know that they are ignoring the people around them.
‘The Perfectionists’ (who seek perfection in everything)
remain in their imaginary world & keep waiting for ideal situations to
cheer up. The island “Perfect” is not there in the world’s map. Still they
remain full of hopes.
‘Irked Relatives’ are always there in everyone’s life, as
relatives are a matter of destiny (except the spouse)
‘Open Marriage Singles’ they are the ones who are living with
their spouses in the same house but they are least bothered for each other.
This is a very common side effect of our modern day life, which is “WANT DRIVEN”.
(Immediate Gratification)\
‘ATM Cum Husbands’ these poor fellows are the living ATM
machines as their family (wife & so called 21st century teens)
use them as ATM machines only. The first thing they get at home is the bill for
the daily expenses when they reach home after office or business set ups.
‘Intellectual differences’ by the time marriages reaches a
double digit vintage (10+years), the difference between life partners start
increasing as they are exposed to two different worlds. Their definition for
every world is different, like finances, materialistic possessions & show off,
responsibilities towards old parents, children and love life.
Our generation is living in an era of fake identities. Many
of us are living with dual faces. One side we love ourselves & want to live
with peace, at the same time we are becoming “ZERO TOLERANCE ROBOTS”.
Everyone is searching for peace & love. The change has to
start from “YOU”. (In my case it’s ME)
Only one person who can help you is “YOU”. The only person
who can take you through is YOU. The focus has to be on Your Own development. It
sounds too repetitive. But this is the only way out, I realized it in my life,
you will realize if not now, then later, but truth will remain the same.
Start using a mantra to “FORGIVE & FORGET”; the more you
forgive; the more you set free your soul. The more you forget the uncontrollable
things in your life the more you enjoy the life as it comes.
Ensure you take care of your health unconditionally. The word
“Unconditionally” is the key here, join gym, if not join neighborhood yoga
class if not, join any dance class if not, go for a brisk walk daily in the morning
& even if nothing seems possible then plug in music at home, close your
room dance or do whatever physical activity you remember, point is do it daily,
don’t miss the bliss of being fit & in great shape.
Ensure your mental balance (Emotional Quotient), don’t depend
on anyone to keep you happy, it’s a human made society, God has created us as
individuals, & that’s why God gave us the power of self talk, even if you
listen to your heart & follow, you will ensure the happiness in your life. Don’t
ignore the voice of your Divine Soul (In my previous blog read about ‘Divine
Soul’).
Once your health is good & your emotions are well under
control, you can feel free & a free soul smile like an innocent child. This
innocent smile will bring a positive aura around you. No matter who lives around
you will get a new positiveness in you, trust me people will turn towards you with
a new perspective. Though positiveness travels with much lesser speed, but it’s
not stand still also.
Few suggestions for making life simple & happy:
Ambitions are good; in fact important to grow, but not at the
cost of family time, balanced approach will bring harmony in life.
Search for perfection in relationships or human being is
total waste of time, thinking of perfection in other is itself not perfect.
Respect everyone’s individuality. Life is simple if we don’t treat it as a
puzzle.
Because of other relationships don’t spoil your core relationships;
don’t try to win someone at the cost of losing someone you love. It is said
that you can’t satisfy everyone at the same time. So even if some people are
not happy with you don’t be guilty. It’s normal.
Even if love has disappeared from your marriage but you
are not planning a divorce, it shows that something is still there on which the
relationship is floating. Try to rediscover the love in your married life. Forgive
& Forget can work magic. You can make certain rules like; prohibit the
mobile phones in the bedroom, replace your TV with a music system from the
bedroom, as watching TV spoils the opportunity for the light chat between the
life partners. Lack of communication is the biggest reason for detachment. Talk,
it will helps to restore the love.
It’s my humble suggestion to all house wives; that stop
treating your husband’s as ATM machines, as in some cases the wife remain
immune to financial recession while the husband has to bear the burn. The way
inflation is hitting the finances of every household, the lady at home has to
respect more for the sole earning male. Understanding the finances for the lady
is equally important. In the urban families where only male is earning, usually
finance is the biggest reason for marital discord. If a lady can’t work she
need to understand the NEED based life rather than WANT based life.
If one grows in life or in profession, start reading some
good literature or the market teaches him/her the values of life; while if the
other partner is into lazy life style or only into fashion clothing there is
possibility that the intellectual differences start building. These differences
start creating communication gap which leads to lack of interest in each other.
Relationship without love is merely a liability. The remedy is self improvement.
Read books, blogs or watch knowledge based TV programs. In nut shell awareness
is the key. A well aware person is confident & confidence is the key to get
respect.
You smile & can see the people around you will smile back
to you, if it can’t be felt in a day, but rest assured it will happen for sure.
The biggest guarantee you can take from your own analysis. If
someone forgive you for your faults & forget the bitterness from the past;
Will you welcome him/ her back in your life or not? If your answer is yes, my
purpose of writing this blog is achieved.
Smile is contagious. Let’s spread this beautiful instant
natural makeup to bring joy in our life.
Smile & inspire to smile.