Showing posts with label happy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happy. Show all posts

Monday, 12 August 2013

Pamper Yourself !


Happiness has become something rare today, people of every age group are facing uphill task to keep themselves happy.

Remember! When you laughed out loud in your life last time.  Please don’t count the laughter which was induced by a laughter show on TV or a comic movie of your favorite movie star. In our daily life laughter seems lost somewhere.

Take a round in any office & you will find people are working like machines and facial expressions are only cosmetic. Human beings are turning into machines - expressionless, emotionless & short tempered. Why is this happening? The real essence of life is lost somewhere, something is going drastically wrong.

Time has changed the urban life forever, nobody has time for others, and relationships are measured & maintained keeping financial status in mind. Relationship is no more an emotional issue it’s an affordability issue now. Sounds irritating & mind becomes clueless.

For absolute happiness if you depend on others including your most cherished relationship you are not doing justice to yourself. You need to understand life from your perspective. Let’s try to understand the impact of being in happiness. If you remain happy you will create a happy environment around you. Being positive about life in a miracle you will come to know once you practice happiness.

The key is to understand the self worth. It will help you to establish the reason to love yourself. A happy person can only give others the gift of happiness. As only a person who has money can give others money, in similar terms to give happiness, first you must have happiness.

Mostly there are two kinds of people in the world; one who are living in their past with guilt in their lives. Past is something which will never come back, and can’t be changed. On the other hand the other kind of people who live in future. Future is always uncertain, now if you keep thinking about future, all what will come in your mind will be hypothetical & uncertain.

The need is to live in the present. Present is also known as the real “Gift of God”. We can act only in present time. Action will bring results. Results will change the future. Action in right direction will bring happiness in future, so by present day action one can actually command his/ her future.

Now let’s talk about few possibilities for practicing happiness & how one can pamper himself/ herself.

Self talk: - Talk to yourself more often, decide your own happiness factors, indulge in something you love. Most of the solutions are within us only.

Self improvement: - Try to remain updated with latest studies of self help; there is plenty of data & studies available on the internet. Self improvement is the key to grow in life mentally & spiritually.

Awareness: - Keep yourself updated. Internet is a great tool besides TV to update you. An updated person on the current fashion, trends, news & society feels confident while moving in the circle. Confidence reflects from the body language & makes your acceptance easy.

Join a Gym: - Today’s life is so monotonous that there is hardly any excitement, by joining some club or gym; you will find new faces around & by indulging in some exercise like yoga, aerobic or gym workout, you will get a new energy in life. By doing physical activities we get Adrenaline rush.  “Adrenaline” is a hormone responsible for stimulating the excitement, good mood and happiness in mind. Yoga can be practiced at home, thanks to so many yoga gurus for free daily shows on TV. Go for jogging in the nearby park or field.

Join a Dance Class: - Dancing is not only a great fitness tool but a great help in up lifting our mood. Dance has always been associated with happiness & joy. You can join a dance class. Dance forms like Salsa & Jive are very popular in India now. Dance can be practiced at home also; you just need a determination & a mobile with MP3 songs in its data card. Plug in your head phone & start.

Be Fashionable: - Don’t wait for someone to come in your life to ask you to wear the fashion or the trendy clothes. If you have someone that’s good; but even if you don’t have any one, do it for you. You will find extreme happiness & a reason to appreciate yourself. Be in shape by burning some calories in gym/yoga/dance/jog or some sports activity. Wear what your heart says. Looking good is bliss.

Ventilate Yourself: - Find out a friend or relative who is a good listener & share your heart with him/her, the listener might not help, but just by listening he/she will help you to calm down. When you are calm you will take better decision which will help to resolve the issue.

Hug yourself: - Sounds strange; but have you ever tried, we most of the time forget to appreciate ourselves & wait for other to do this. Try a hug to yourself every morning & say loudly “I Love myself”, after few days you will realize the power of loving yourself.

Appreciate yourself: - It’s not that you need to be arrogant, being happy is not being selfish. Remember expressions are the real jewel of a human being not the features. Simple to understand example - a beautiful face can attract hundreds of people but it’s all about retention of our loved ones.

Practice Happiness: - Life is like a live drama, which unfolds everyday in front of us. No clue what’s in the future? When everything is temporary in life, rest assured your pain is also temporary; just hang on & keep your positive attitude towards life. Sounds bookish, let me know if being in negative mood you can do better? Keep reminding yourself “ALL IZ WELL” a famous Bollywood movie dialogue. But try this it actually works wonder. Thanks to the writer.

Watch Movie: - Don’t wait for the approval for a movie from your friends or loved ones; try solo. You will like the movie or you will like the solo company where no one is to tell what to do next, other opinions are important but not to ruin your mood.

Solo Tourism: - Try solo travelling; taking a break from your routine life & traveling alone will give you ample time for self talk. You can grab a book & enjoy your own company.

Grab a book: - Find out a book which has your favorite topics. Read it. Even if you read few pages you will love it. Try it.

Listening Music: - In our hectic life style, listening music of choice is also something we need to plan. An old song or a gazal of some maestro can bring long lasting smile on your face. Try & enjoy.

Bring back the Trust: - Try to make new friends, meet new people & show interest in life. Trust again. No matter what the past experience you are carrying. Trust again. It will help you to reach the right person. If you fail again, it will teach you million dolor lessons. But if you get someone trust worthy, a genuine friend you will cherish the new friendship for life.

               Live guilt free life. Don’t be the prisoner of your own past. Free yourself from the past. Doesn't either live in your future; it will waste your time & efforts. Live in the present moment. Whatever you will do today; will be a memory for tomorrow. Making mistakes is human. Learning from mistakes is a way to learn. It's said mistakes are the stepping stones to success.

               Let’s make life a journey which you travel every day. Move yourself towards the worthy goal. Dream. Dare. Be happy. Your happiness is the best gift to life. Gratitude is the key to receive the God’s blessings. Pamper yourself. Your happiness will bring positive people around you. Being happy will work in all walks of life to your favor.

Pamper yourself. Love yourself. Show the world your lovable soul. Law of nature will bring the best of people to you.





Friday, 2 August 2013

Happiness Decoded: Immediate Gratification Vs Gratitude

Question:     Are you happy with your life?

Most common answer to this question would be,

Who is happy in this life?

Or
Why are you joking man

Or
I can be happy once my dreams come true. (Like owning my own business, or getting promoted or inheriting property or marrying my dream partner)

Or
I can be happy if relationship with wife/ husband/ Children/ parents/ boss/ co-workers improves.


Why people are not happy???

Why I mean why these kind of answers are so very common. Be it a 15 year old kid or a house wife or a working lady or a service class man or even a businessman.

Immediate gratification is demanding rewards within the short time, its living for a day kind of mind set. Life can give actual rewards but the with the hard work & time.

Answer is within us only, now a days people have become crazy for materialistic possessions & there is a race to acquire more & more. On one side people say that they are not happy & on the other side they want to buy new clothes, LCDs, music systems, smart phones, I pads, & cars etc. Actually this rat race is not letting their mind to stay peaceful & a constant chase remain in the mind to acquire more. Every one of us is bombarded with loads of information from electronic media like internet & info commercial television shows. Anyone who is having access to internet or TV is in the target audience for such commercial advertisements.
Family members like kids & house wives get the maximum access for info commercial TV channels & they relate their standard of life can only be measured by the latest smart phone, latest dress, LCDs etc. They don’t think that they are being used as puppets by the big business houses.

Here I am not saying that the entire blame is on the TV channels or internet, actual the culprit is reduced communication in the family members, as long working hours have created a big gap in communication in relationships.

I still remember that my father used to come back from his office and used to sit with entire family over the cup of tea & homemade snacks, those simple happy moments are absent from our life style now. I hope everyone who is in the range of 35-40 years of age will agree with me.

Deteriorating communication in the family is the worst thing which is taking its toll to the family set up, forget joint family system even a nuclear family unit is not able to maintain the healthy environment. The reason is the increasing cost of living clubbed and immediate gratification which has changed the focus from emotions to materialistic possessions.

The problem is more in the family where a single earning member is there & rest of the members are influenced by show off culture.

Once immediate gratification becomes a habit, no one can be happy, take an example of a student, a simple fresh graduate is not ready to take up a job which is paying lesser than his/ her expectations, while in an era where jobs are rare thing, refusing an opportunity is not advisable. The fresh graduates have to understand that everyone can’t get a Blue Chip company to start with.

Take an example of a house wife who is free. TV & internet are her best friends, she will be exposed to latest fashion/make-up/smart phones/kitchen appliances etc. Now the gimmick of advertisement is such that she feels that without all the new shopping her self esteem is on the stake, what will happen if her friend buys something & she doesn't?

Take an example of an Executive who has just got a job in a Blue Chip company and making excellent money; he is also not happy, what??? Yes you would be asking this why he is not happy, just try to see what’s happening in metro towns, pub culture is on rise, young working class is spending money on the bigger than life brands, I am not saying spending money is wrong, but spending without planning is a cause of worry, and use of credit card for show off is one of the common mistakes.

Mid career blue is now a common thing in India, when you walk in any of the private office you find young faces greeting you, don’t you get scared that where have the middle age people gone. Jobs are becoming tight rope walk, and sustaining the pressure in the job is the biggest cause of blood pressure & heart ailments. You also must have heard that a young man in your circle has suffered from heart attack/ blood pressure/diabetes, have you??? All these are life style related diseases & decades ago, were associated with old age only, but now age doesn't matter.

Question is how to be happy:

Let’s live life as it comes, and pay gratitude to the GOD for the gift called life to us as human being, only human beings are given the power of verbal communication. It’s a divine gift; good communication can change the entire life.

Living life filled with gratitude is the key to happiness, being happy about your own self is the first step towards the success. Accepting the life as a plan of GOD is the best way to pay gratitude to GOD.

Take the focus from WANTs to NEEDs, once your focus is on needs the financial crisis will start coming to an end, and you will realize the harmony will start flowing in life. Relationships will start improving.

Dreams should inspire you to work harder & achieve rather than immediate fulfillment of desires. Once you work with full energy towards your dreams, you will achieve happiness in pursuit.

The GOD has been kind that we were born in this era of great development, where fiction is almost turning into reality, so let’s use our energy to achieve something worthy, and being happy for our today should be our first priority. Only a happy person can ask for more happiness as he/she must be content with today. A heart filled with gratitude is the magnet for happiness. Use this power to create a happy life.

Initially we may have to practice happiness, but eventually if we are determined to be happy, we will start finding happiness in small things like, sun rise, a simple walk in the park, playing with our pet dog, tea with an old friend or just relaxing with the family in the drawing room or playing carrom.

Once we start valuing small things, small happiness, life will start transforming, the relations will start becoming cordial & magical.

Let’s be determined to lead a happy life, bring gratitude in life & see the miracle happening. Start communicating with family more often, it will bring harmony.

Forgive & Forget is another magical mantra for guaranteed happiness in life. 

In coming days we will be discussing on this also, till than stay happy, stay blessed.